A Woman of Worth – Alicia

Welcome to my series, “A Woman of Worth.” I’m excited to introduce you to the many women who have impacted my life and inspired me throughout the different seasons of my life. I have a feeling they will inspire many of you as well. We never know the path that others have walked when we first meet them. Whatever we are going through, we can usually find someone that will inspire us in the very thing that we need encouragement in. Through this series, I hope you will enjoy meeting the women that I have had the blessing of having in my life either for a short time or a very long time.

I met Alicia and her husband Shelby right before Jim and I got married through some mutual friends of ours. That has been over 43 years ago! We didn’t see much of each other after Jim and I married as we had moved off to seminary and then were busy serving in other churches. When we moved back to Midland we connected again. My Jim was a director and teacher in the Jr. High Department of our home church at this time and Shelby and Alicia were serving in this class. I have many stories of the shenanigans we got into. Alicia and I are very different in so many things but yet the same in just as many. We get tickled at how we are so different and we still have so much fun together.

One of my favorite stories is when Alicia and I met at the church on a Saturday afternoon to decorate the bulletin boards in our class. The classroom was upstairs and the light switch to upstairs was downstairs on the wall as you walk up the stairs. There was also a switch at the beginning of the hallway upstairs. So, we turned the light on and headed up and began working away. While we were laughing and talking… all of the sudden the lights went out. It was pitch black. I couldn’t even see my hand in front of my face. Yes, I was terrified. Alicia kept saying, “it’s okay, someone probably just turned the light off thinking no one was up here.” I said, “sure, we are about to be murdered!” I began imagining all sorts of things. Alicia, yelled out, “Hello?” Silence! The only thing to do was to walk down to the end of the very long hallway and try to turn the light on or run as fast as we can as we get to the stairs and run outside! So, Alicia said she would go turn the light on, I said, “I’m not staying here by myself!” She said, “come, on, then!” I had a stapler in my hand opened and ready to staple anyone that tried to get me. Alicia had a pair of scissors. It’s a miracle we didn’t hurt ourselves. She led the way and held on to the back of her shirt and followed with stapler ready. We made it to the light switch and turned the lights on. What a relief to be able to see again. Needless to say we hurried and finished our work and got out of there. All we could figure is one of the staff was downstairs and saw the light on thinking no one was there and turned it off and left.

Over the years we have traveled to places like Hawaii, Maine and Branson together. Our husbands enjoy hiking and exploring while we usually shop and search out our next restaurant to try out.

Alicia and Shelby have been married for 44 years and have two daughters who are married and have blessed them with 5 grandkiddos! I love Alicias name that her grand babies call her. She-She! I love it. She is an amazing mom and grandmother. Her girls love being around Alicia. I love hearing about how much fun they all have together.

A few years ago Alicia and Shelby moved to the Fort Worth area and have a beautiful home that they love spending time with family and friends in. Alicia serves in her church in many areas. She is an excellent cook and she shares her gift of cooking and hospitality by organizing and preparing regular luncheons for the staff at her church. If you are fortunate to be a guest at Alicias home, you will be treated like royalty.

Riding horses has always been a love of Alicia….yes, she even has her own horse! She also stays busy by taking care of her mom who doesn’t live too far away. Sewing and decorating are also on the list of her many talents.

When I wasn’t feeling very well a couple of years ago, Alicia would text on a regular basis checking on me and encouraging me. She would challenge me regularly with things to get back to the living. She reminded me that I was going to be okay and she was right, I am! I’m very thankful for my friendship with Alicia and her husband. You are blessed if you have the Hanks in your life as dear friends!

Alicia became a Christian when she was 7 years old. She remembers that day very well. As she got older she wrestled a bit with her salvation wondering if she had said the right words or not. She now knows her salvation was complete at the age of 7 when she asked Jesus into her heart!

Alicia’s favorite verse that she goes to on a regular basis is Philippians 4:6, ” Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.” If she doesn’t understand something in her life, she goes to this verse. If she doesn’t know how to pray, she goes to that verse. If she is frustrated, angry, confused, she goes back to that verse. It is her “reset” button.

Alicia shared that if she could have had some advice many years ago that would help her it would be, “To consistently go to God for my contentment and my “happiness.” A person is not responsible for that.”

I asked Alicia what she felt her purpose in life is and this is what she told me:

“I have wrestled with this most of my life. I am a “guns a blazing” type person. When God chose not to use that part of my personality, I was left to wonder just how He could use me. I have since learned that my purpose is simple; to glorify the Lord. If that is leading 2000 forward, or spending 10 minutes visiting with someone in the grocery store, it all all for His glory.”

There are two things Alicia hopes to be remembered by: Her obedience to God and that she could make you laugh.

Alicia hopes to encourage other women to remember that their husband is just a man. He has his own personality, his own goals and his own vision. Pray for your husband! Don’t belittle him, love him.

I hope you enjoyed getting to know my friend, Alicia and that her words encouraged you. We all can learn from one another regardless of age difference, likes, dislikes, talents and everything in between. Don’t ever limit yourself in reaching out to make a new friend. You never know what you will learn and how much fun life can be with a friend!

A Woman of Worth – Jo

Until next time,

A Woman of Worth – Jo

Welcome to my series, “A Woman of Worth.” I’m excited to introduce you to the many women who have impacted my life and inspired me throughout the different seasons of my life. I have a feeling they will inspire many of you as well. We never know the path that others have walked when we first meet them. Whatever we are going through, we can usually find someone that will inspire us in the very thing that we need encouragement in. Through this series, I hope you will enjoy meeting the women that I have had the blessing of having in my life either for a short time or a very long time.

I met Jo Fite many years ago when I became a Mary Kay Cosmetic Consultant about 25 years ago. When I first met Jo, she was always so kind and was interested in me and my family. She always asked about my kiddos. She was and is an encourager. I admired how she always had a smile on her face and she was easy to talk to. She was also one that I knew was praying for me and I prayed for her as well.

Jo and her husband will celebrate their 43rd anniversary this year. When they married… Lyn who was 14 years older than she, had 2 children. Jo had given a baby girl up for adoption on one very early Easter morning when she was 16. Jo never stopped praying for her daughter over the next 25 years. After 25 years of praying for her, Jo was contacted by her daughter. She had just had her first child and wanted to find her birth mother. This was such an amazing time in all of their lives as Jo had her daughter back and a new grand baby. They are now all very close and are enjoying being a family again. Jo and Lyn now have 3 grandchildren. I love this story, don’t you?

Jo and Lynn lived in west Texas for a very long time and decided to retire to a small town in New Mexico. This was a big change for Jo as her mother was beginning to have dementia and so they moved her with them and shortly after the love of her life, Lyn, developed Macular Degeneration. This season of Jo’s life involves spending time servicing her Mary Kay customers of 30 years and taking good care of her mom and husband. She is the chief driver of the family. I love what she shared with me:

Mom & Lyn always took great care of me over the years, so I consider this a blessing that I can now take care of them!” 

Jo became a Christian shortly after she married. She and Lyn were doing a Bible study together and she realized that she needed to make Jesus her Lord and Savior. When she was around 10 years old she was introduced to Christ and made a profession, but didn’t remember much about it. So she settled it in her 20’s.

Jo’s biggest challenge in life right now is doing her best to take care of her husband and mom. Jo is also struggling with arthritis, She has had several surgeries and needs a couple more but is putting it off as she doesn’t want to be down and not able to care for her husband and mother. Now if you were to meet Jo, you would probably never know this as she doesn’t talk about herself very much. She’s always caring for others and loves doing so.

Jo’s favorite scripture that brings her comfort at this time in her life is:

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.  And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus!” Philippians 4:6-7

Jo told me that she wanted to be remembered as someone who cares for those that she loves and meets each day. That is Jo! When you meet her, you know that she truly cares for everyone in her life.

I hope you are encouraged by Jo’s life. What a beautiful picture of grace and beauty she is. I’m thankful to call her my friend! I love seeing her faithfulness to her husband, her children and her mom. She loves each of her Mary Kay customers and you know she’s doing something right when her customers call her and ask if they can go to church with her. That’s my friend, Jo! Alamogordo, New Mexico is lucky to have you!

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Until next time,