Who Have You Invited Lately?

This thought has been going through my mind for some time now and I figured the only way to get it out of my head is to…..say it with me……..WRITE ABOUT IT! You are good!

When I became a believer as a teen, I was taught right away to share what I had experienced which is known as “witnessing.” As a very shy girl, I did my best. Many times it was very easy and other times it wasn’t. I learned how to sum up my story in a few words to get the point across. What a joy it was to actually lead someone to Christ. Which means to lead them in a prayer of salvation. I have to stop right here and explain something….terms and life has changed so much over the years. In the church world we have been told that times are a changing and we need to change our lingo in order to reach people with the gospel better. I’ve tried to change my lingo but, I always go back to what I know. What can I say.? I hope what I’m writing about makes sense. If it doesn’t, I’m always here to answer any questions. Now…where was I?

In high school, my mission was to tell as many that would listen about Jesus. Yep, I was teased a few times and put on the spot and in one class I was ostracized for using God’s Word in my speech, etc. In later years, in full time ministry, it was just a natural thing. I was always inviting people to church and Bible study. Leading neighbors and strangers to Christ was always so exciting. Many times we picked people up on the way to church. There were those times someone would say, “Yes, pick me up.” Well, you get there and they don’t answer the door and you get the message that they weren’t interested. That was my world for many years. My favorite story is when we pastored a tiny church and we had one car. My husband would go to the church early on Sunday mornings and get things read and study. Then he would come back and pick me and our two babies up. We would then pick up a lady that lived in government housing on the other side of town. She had I don’t know how many kids…it was a bunch of stair stepped cute little kiddos. Her husband was an alcoholic and we had the privilege of sending him to a home for alcoholics that the late Jerry Falwell started. We would be piled up in our car Sunday after Sunday until they moved on to another town…I have no idea how we all fit!

I miss those days…..sometimes!

While serving as a women’s ministry director for several years….one of my favorite things to do was invite women to everything we had. Every Bible study, every event, every class….it kept me busy because we had a lot going to reach as many women as possible. I met many new friends. I carried cards with all the information on it. When we had an event, it was natural for me to ask everyone I knew to it. I was excited and I wanted everyone to hear and see what was going on. Most of all to be encouraged with what Christ can and will do in our lives. Everyone needs encouragement and I think everyone needs Christ in their lives. So, why wouldn’t I invite everyone I knew and met while out and about?

I have a feeling you are probably that way, too. You don’t want anyone to miss out on anything that would help someone in their walk with Christ, right?

I have noticed that not everyone thinks like we do. You have no idea how many times I have listened to people talk about their Bible studies they attend, their church group, special events and ministries….and no mention of inviting anyone to join them. They go year after year, week after week and the thought never enters their mind to invite someone to join them or make sure someone doesn’t need to be encouraged somehow.

We might be surprised how many people are looking for a connection. How many women are needing some fellowship (there’s that old fashioned word) or some encouragement and just need an invite to whatever we are doing.

Has someone visited your church, study group or event and you are wondering where they are? Maybe you need to check on them and make sure they felt welcome and are invited back. It takes a big step to walk into a place alone…uninvited. Don’t be the one, who just wonders who someone is and then wonders where they are the next week when they don’t show back up. Do something about it. Even if you have to start your own ministry in reaching out to visitors.

I’ve been in a lot of churches and study groups as a visitor and a new member and I could tell you some crazy stories, but, we will save that for another time.

My challenge for you is to make a list of people that you are in contact with that don’t have a place to study or go to church. Then one by one, do something about it.

Think back to when you became a believer or joined a new church or Bible study group. How did you know about it? Why did you go back?

I believe we have a huge responsibility other than the “us four and no more attitude.” It’s probably one of the most important responsibilities we have. We have no idea who is struggling in their faith, in their walk…..in just life!

Many times we get comfortable in our church and our special groups and we forget the main reason we are even still here. We need to step out of our box and look around. Who needs just a little nudge or a fresh start somewhere. We all have a tendency to get so busy with doing, we don’t stop and look around to what is really important…..reaching out to others!

I can’t wait to hear about you making a difference in someones life by just one simple invitation!

Need Ideas for Your Women’s Ministry?

Here we are for our final post on ideas for women’s ministry.  I just finished going through my  last file folder filled with everything from newsletters, brochures, typed messages, thank you notes and everything in between.  I found things that I had forgotten about and what fun it was to reminisce all those sweet memories.  I did hang on to a few things that I just couldn’t let go of.  I’m saving things like newsletters, newspaper clippings, pictures and some videos of some event promotions.  I’ll check back on them in a year or so and maybe I will let go of them then, but for now, just so hard to let it go.

So, are you ready for a few ideas for ministries within your women’s ministry?  I really hope some of this will spark some interest for you somehow and maybe help you develop ideas that fit your group of ladies.

Here we go:

Cancer Support Group

First Place Weight Loss Program/Bible Study

Heart to Heart Widow Support Group

Homeschool Mom Support Group

University Classes for Women (Bible Studies)

Ladies Exercise Class

Moms of Teens Support Group

My Time Mom’s Group

Spanish Women’s Ministry

Home Bible Study

Woman to Woman Mentoring

Women’s Ministry Network (Area Women’s Ministry Directors)

Women of the Word Bible Class

Virtue College Girls Bible Study

Tae Bo/Pilates Class

MOPS – Mothers of Preschoolers

Things Treasured Scrapbooking Club

Writing for Him

Women of Grace Bible Study

Deacon Wives Book Club

*Many workshops were taught over the years covering all types of topics that pertained to women in all walks of life.  The Lord always provided just the right lady that was willing to share and serve in the capacity.  This was always one of my favorites.

The theme for all of the ministries was the following:

Pursuing Godliness

“…teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously and godly in the present age looking for the blessed hope and glorious appearing of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ.”  Titus 2:12-13

In our city we have a home for moms and their children who are needing a fresh start in life and this was a great place to provide ministry that would reach out to the moms with help of all kinds.  The women’s ministry blessed the kids with “Operation Backpack,” which provides a backpack filled with school supplies at the beginning of the school year.  At Christmas children and the moms received gifts from their wish lists.  Also, the moms were blessed with items to set up housekeeping  in the way of  home furnishings, food and toiletries.  Special classes and Bible studies were provided as well.

A baby shower was held for our local Life Center that provides counseling and services for crisis pregnancies.

One last thing to share with you.  Two books were created and published by the ladies and for two consecutive years, these books were given to all the women in attendance on Mother’s Day as a gift from the Women’s Ministry.

The two books were:

“Pearls of Wisdom” – “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and her tongue is the law of kindness.” Proverbs 31:26  This book was filled with stories written by ladies of the church sharing the best advice they received that encouraged them in their walk with Christ.

“….and with God’s grace, she lived happily ever after.” – This was a book compiled of salvation stories of many of the ladies in the church.  This was an awesome project to put together and we saw much fruit from it.   One sweet story I can share is a dear lady of the church couldn’t write her salvation story simply because she didn’t have one.  She came to Christ because of this book.  She gave her life to Christ and now has a beautiful story to tell.

The ladies also put together a beautiful cookbook;  “The Fruit of the Spirit.”

At a “Friendship Tea,” a small recipe book was given to each attendee. It was filled with tea time recipes and encouraging quotes on friendship; “Recipes and Reflections.”

Women’s Ministry can be such an amazing ministry to the ladies of your church.  When you see the needs of the ladies in your own church as well as the community, you can be creative and come up with a million ways to serve,  provide friendship and encourage a life to be lived fully for Christ.

I’ve always said that a woman’s life can change her home life, which can change her church, which can change her city, which can change her country, which can change her world.  So, why wouldn’t a church be sure to have a strong dedicated ministry to women?

It’s pretty funny, well, not funny, sort of sad to learn of the attitude of some churches on the idea of a women’s ministry.  When we were putting together a city wide conference, I called all the churches possible.  One of the churches the pastor answered the phone.  I introduced myself and told him why I was calling.  When I asked if he had a contact name so I could mail information about the conference, he hung up on me.  Yes…he did, really!

If you are involved in women’s ministry, I pray that you are successful in every area and love every second of it.  Always remember, the enemy doesn’t want to see women living a life sold out for Christ, so be ready for the evil one to try to destroy.  Trust me, he will use whatever vessel is available.  Everything you do, should be prayed about and have the blessing of your husband, pastor and you should know fully well what the Lord would have you do.  The best place to ever be is in the center of God’s perfect will.  When you are there, nothing can stop you. Keep your eyes on Christ.

When the time comes for you to step down from women’s ministry and you know without a doubt that is what God wants you to do, know that you gave your best and did your best.  Hopefully, the ministry will flourish in the hands of someone else.  If it doesn’t, you have to realize, there isn’t anything you can do about it.  It’s all in God’s hands.  Your season has passed and it’s time for a new season for your life.

So, there you go….maybe something helped and maybe it didn’t.  At least I got my files cleared out and I was able to put in writing some things I don’t want to forget.  I’m pretty sure I will have to share some other things sometime about women’s ministry as it is one of my passions.

I would love to hear what you are doing in the way of encouraging other women to live a life for Him.

Here are the links to the previous posts in this series:

How’s It Going With Your New Year Plans?

My 10 Tips For Beginning a Women’s Ministry

Tips On Beginning a Women’s Ministry Newsletter

Ideas for Women’s Ministry Events

Ideas for Women’s Ministry Events

While cleaning out my files and discarding papers, notes and many memories of my time volunteering in our women’s ministry, I decided to just make a list of the many events that our ministry held for our church and our community.  I hope they will inspire you to step out and take the risk of planning some events that will be an encouragement to your ladies.  I am one of those that believes you can have fun with things that women enjoy and always share the gospel at each event.  I had a friend that said “bring them for the fluff and then give them the gospel.”

Women wear so many hats and are responsible for so much.  We love to laugh, cry and grow in our walk with Christ together.  Granted, there will always be someone that will try to make you feel like you should only meet together for deep intense Bible study and prayer without any “frufru.”  Is that a word.  I love Bible study and prayer.  I also love getting friends together for encaurgement and inspiration with the girly girl things of life.

My list is not in any certain order.  I’m just typing as I go through files.  I sure hope it makes sense for you.  Here we go:

Ministry Kick-Off Dinner:  A time to introduce the ministry with a Guest Speaker along with introductions of the ministry team and leaders of various ministries available.

Shopping Trip:  Our church already had in place a yearly shopping excursion to a city that had a large outlet shopping mall.

Fall Celebration: Ladies brought their favorite dish (pot-luck) while enjoying special music and a message.

Mother/Daughter Retreat:  An opportunity for moms and their teen daughters to go away for a weekend for teaching and togetherness.

A New Year, A New You Seminar:  A day full of workshops on various subjects taught by ladies of the church that specialize in various things.  (Prayer Journaling, Writing, Cooking, etc.)

Baking Night:  A lady in the church who was gifted in the area of hospitality and cooking shared how to set a menu for the month and freeze meals, etc.

Spring Conference with speaker and author, Elizabeth George.

A Woman’s Heart for Missions: Guest Speaker was a missionary to Costa Rica and the ladies brought a mexican dish to share.

Friendship Tea: A Fabulous Tea Party with all the decor and treats to make it even more fun and a guest speaker.

New Year Kick-Off Brunch:  A new year and time to introduce ministries.

Teen Girl Conference:  Two days filled with guest speakers, music and workshop all for teen girls and even some classes for moms of teens.

Christmas Tour Of Homes:  An actual tour of several homes that were decorated for Christmas.  Would meet back at the church for a devotion and snacks.

Spring Conference with author/speaker, Lane Jordan.

Comedy Night:  A night of fun with ladies sharing funny stories, etc.

His Princess Tea

Dress Your Decade: Ladies dressed in the era they grew up in and guest speaker, Sandy Stiles.

Holiday In-Style:  Ladies decorated their own table and a fashion show by Stein Mart with a guest speaker.

Spring Conference with author/speaker, Lisa Whelchel.

Girlfriends Cafe:  An afternoon for girlfriends filled with music, food and messages from the leadership team.

A Woman’s Heart of Joy:  Desserts with guest speaker, Joni Reese

A Woman’s Heart of Celebration:  A Christmas event with the annual Tour of Homes.

A Woman’s Heart Cares:  A lineup of speakers from various ministries through the city.

A Woman’s Heart Has Purse-onality:  Spring Conference with author/speaker, Donna Partow.

A Woman’s Heart: An end of the year event with author/speaker, Joy Weaver.

Spring Conference with author/speaker, Sheri Rose Shepherd.

A New Year, A New You, Mini-retreat Day:  Instead of traveling away from home, we had a retreat for a day.

Mother-Daughter Cupcake Tea:

Season’s of a Woman’s Heart:  Fall Conference with author/speaker, Laurie Cole

Mother/ Daughter Royal-Tea:  Luncheon with guest speaker, Tatum Hubbard, former Miss Texas.

True-Woman Ladies Luncheon, Guest speakers from Life Action Ministries.

Holiday In-Style: This became an annual event with beautifully decorated tables, style show and guest speaker that year was author/speaker, Debbie Stuart.

Becoming More Women’s Conference with author/speaker, Lysa TerKeurst.

Chocolate Extravaganza: A night full of fun, a great message and lot’s of chocolate.

Fashion Workshop:  I can’t remember the title of this one, but we had an amazing event with author/speaker/fashion stylist, Shari Braendel.

*several events became annual events as the ladies seemed to really enjoy them. 

I think I will stop there….I’m sure I’m leaving so many things out.  I actually went through all of our newsletters and went by the ads.  What sweet memories I have of all the ladies that always worked so hard but had so much fun putting on events.  I loved seeing ladies bring their neighbors, co-workers, friends and family to our events.

For me, the idea was to provide something relevant and something ladies would be proud to attend and bring their guests.

As I was going through the list of events, I also noticed all of the various ministries we provided for our ladies.  In my next post, I’ll list those and maybe it will spark an idea for you and your ladies. I’ll finish up with a post on what I would do different if I had it to do again and lessons learned.

If you missed the previous posts on this subject of putting together a women’s ministry, just click on each title and you can catch up.

How’s Your New Year Going?

My 10 Tips On Beginning a Woman’s Ministry In Your Church

My Tips On Putting Together a Woman’s Ministry Newsletter

I would love to hear what you love about your women’s ministry.

Thanks so much for following along.  I always love reading your comments either left here on the blog or sent to me by email.







Tips On Creating a Newsletter for Your Women’s Ministry

Have you ever been a visitor at a church or maybe, you are a new member and you felt totally out of the loop.  You really don’t know anyone and you for sure don’t know what all is going on and what is offered in the way of activities and events.  Most churches have a big screen with all of the weeks activities flashing by.  This is what I saw when we had joined our church.  If I saw something that caught my eye, I would ask someone and usually they wouldn’t know anything about it.  There was never any mention of it and by the time I got home, I wouldn’t even remember what it was that I read on the big screen.

When you have been a part of several different churches and you are the new kid on the block, things aren’t as easy as someone might think that has been a member of the same church since they were in the nursery.  Until you have experienced it, those that have never moved to a new city and joined a church will probably never really understand how it is to be the “new person.”  That reminds me of a funny story.  Well, not that funny.  After I had gotten involved in my new church, I had a lady stop me after the services one morning, and was look me up and down. She didn’t introduce herself….she just looked at me with her head cocked back and said, “Who are you and where did you come from?”  Mind you, this wasn’t asked in a pleasant way and after I  told her my name and where I “came from,” that was enough.  By the look on her face, it was as if she said, “Enough…..Away with you!”  This particular lady never had much to do with me from that moment on.  I do get tickled thinking about it.

When we began the women’s ministry, the first thing I was concerned about was the communication of what all would be going on with the ladies events.  We began a newsletter that was just for the women.  This was one of my favorite things to put together.  The only problem was, I wasn’t good at all the computer work that it took to make it look like an actual newsletter.  We were blessed  by a beautiful, sweet spirited young mom who designed and put together the newsletter every month.  Fortunately, she was the church secretary which helped tremendously and she worked hard at formatting everything I would send her and then she would have it printed.  I loved everything she did to make it look first class for our ladies.  We then had to have them folded and ready for the mail.  Mailing out a newsletter takes several people to get it from the writing of articles and items all the way to stamped and in the mail.  If you are thinking of doing an actual newsletter, it is a big job and will take several people to help.  You should seek help from lades who see it as a ministry and will ENJOY the thought of encouraging others.  It’s also an expense, so much prayer and thought should go into such an undertaking.

On a side note:  This is not a newsletter that you would expect from a major corporation that is high gloss and professional.  This is from a church that does all of their own printing and everything is done by volunteers.  I realize there are some churches that have a major budget for something like this.  If you do, congratulations and go for it and make it the best.  If not, congratulations and go for it and make it the best!

The name of our newsletter was, Heart Talk.  In each issue, we would include the following:

*The scripture that we used to identify the ministry  (Titus 2:12)

*All the names of the Leadership Team

*Our Mission Statement

*I would do a short (sometimes longer) note, “A Note From Beverly” 

*We always had a  scripture box with a new verse each month that pertained to women

*Our blog address

*Each  month we would have an article written by one of the ladies in the church on something that would be encouraging and enlightening to women

*A recipe

*Ads for upcoming events with all the details of each one

*A listing of all the ministries within the women’s ministry with contact info with when and where they meet

*Website of the month  (This would be a Christian website that would benefit women)

*Book Corner  (2 book recommendations each newsletter with a write up of that particular book)

*Birth Announcements

*If we had an event, we would always have an article with the highlights of the event

Those are the main things that were always included.  I felt it important to be first class (as possible) and with the skill of a couple of ladies in the church, the ads always looked amazing.  I wish you could see all of them.  This should be a newsletter that women can keep each month and refer to for dates, times and information.

We always got calls from women in other cities that wanted to be on the mailing list.  Some would pass them on to their ministry director for an example of what we were doing in our ministry.  It never failed someone would come up each week and say how much they look forward to getting their newsletter in the mail and they read it from cover to cover.  Some even said they had to take it away from their husband because they enjoyed reading it, too.

Another way to stay in touch is with a blog.  It’s a great way to stay connected and share encouraging information.  We had a link to the newsletter as well.  This came in handy for those that weren’t on the mailing list.

Facebook is a great tool.  Have a page dedicated to your ministry.  Instagram is becoming more and more popular and that would be a fun one to have as well.

My main advice for any communication plans that you want to implement would be:

KEEP IT UPDATED and POST REGULARLY.  I would think you would want to do something every day or every other day.  It can be something small as a scripture, or a picture that shows something enticing coming up.  Women love being connected and keeping them connected is a big job, but, oh so worth it.

Have you ever gone to a website for a ministry looking for a time of an event and they have their Christmas info up and it is May?  Or, they have a link to their newsletter, but, it’s from 9 months ago?  If you are going to go to the trouble of communicating in social media or through the mail, have it current, and…. pleasing to the eye with as much information as possible.

If you missed my last post with my 10 Tips On Starting a Women’s Ministry, click here to read the latest.

Our next topic will be on ideas for events and ministries for the ladies of your church and community.

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My 10 Tips On Beginning a Women’s Ministry In Your Church…

Are you ready to talk about women’s ministry?

Whether you are a leader, a participant or just curious about how to begin a women’s ministry, maybe the next couple of articles on my blog will be of some help.

You may have a question such as, “Beverly, what could you possibly know about women’s ministry that I don’t already know?”


I don’t claim to know much of anything at all.  I just go by my experience and what I’ve been through in my 58 years of life! ha!  Some good and some not so good.  I love this scripture in God’s Word:

“As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” Proverbs 27:17

We can all learn so much from each other if we share with one another what we know and have learned.   We may even help one another from going through some of those not so good things that could happen and become wiser and stronger.

Nope….I didn’t go to college and major in Women’s Ministry.  Although I wish I would have when my husband was in Seminary.  I worked while he attended school.  Bummer!

As a new Christian in the church at the age of 14, I was drawn to the pastor’s wives and missionary wives.  I wanted to learn so much from them as well as the older women in the church. I wanted to know everything possible to become a mighty woman of God.  The church I grew up in from the age of 14 on, didn’t have a women’s ministry.  I do remember a time when some special classes were taught by women of the church to teens and women on how to be a Godly woman.  I soaked it up.  Every now and then on Wednesdays nights, the women would gather and have a time of prayer.  The staff wives would lead and I loved hearing the women pray about the things of the church.

When I married at the age of 20, we prepared to sell everything we had (which wasn’t much) and move to the Dallas area and attend a Bible Seminary.  What an exciting and scary time.  I could tell your stories about that season, but, that will have to be another day.  It was a sweet time as well as an interesting time.

Our first church that we served in while in Bible college, gave us so many sweet memories while my husband served as the youth pastor/associate pastor.  In our our youth group we formed a group called “Christian Womanhood.” (My husband led a group called, “Christian Manhood”.) What a sweet group of girls we had.  We studied what it was to be a young woman of God.  We actually began a girls choir. What’s funny about that one, is, I can’t sing.  We also had a Mother’s Day Conference.  I knew nothing, but it was a success.  I was 21, newly married and scared out of my mind.

Our second church we served in; my husband was the pastor.  It was a tiny church.  I started off with just having ladies in my home for get togethers and we attended a ladies conference nearby.  This was a very small church and money was extremely tight.  I had a newborn and a 3 year old.  I only did what I could to get the women together when I could.

The next stop on our journey was a larger church and it didn’t have a women’s ministry.  I was hungry to learn from other women in the area of living my life as a pastor’s wife.  I read whatever I could get my hands on.  I stayed busy helping my husband however I could in his ministry while homeschooling and raising our children.

We then were called to another church where my husband served as youth pastor.  Again, no women’s ministry.  I talked to the pastor’s wife and she wasn’t interested at all as she was busy and worked full time.  So, we started small with a ladies conference to kick it off.  From there, several women got interested and a few little ministries developed.  This was the time that I learned some serious lessons in how dangerous women’s ministry can be if the wrong people are in charge.  Woowee…..I won’t go into details, but let’s just say,  if someone wants to start a “Secret Sisters” group, you might be in a pickle if the ladies that are in charge take it upon themselves to get on to  participants if they didn’t give a gift or card for the month. Not just get on to, but a good chewing out might be the right word.  I’ll just leave that one right there.  We eventually got a new pastor at this particular church who loved women’s ministry.  She took the reigns and did a great job with it.

I learned many lessons at that time, good and bad.  Not just in women’s ministry, but in every area of service.  I can share some of those lessons at another time.

Years later we were involved in a church as laypeople.  (That means, not in full-time ministry.)

I was asked if I would be interested in starting a ladies Bible class.  The thought scared me terribly and after praying about it, I had peace that was what I was to do.  As I was preparing, I thought how awesome it would be to possibly begin a women’s ministry at the same time.  When I visited with the pastor about it, he was on board with the idea.  So off we went.  What a fun time of learning, sharing and  many lessons, once again.  I wouldn’t trade the nine years of this season for anything.

So from there, I will share what I know and how we did our women’s ministry and maybe there is something that will help or prevent some issues in your ministry.

The sweet girls from our very first ministry. I’m the scared looking girl in the middle of the back row!

Enough of where you’ve been, Beverly, where’s those 10 tips?

Here they are…

  1.  If you don’t have the full support and backing of your pastor and staff, don’t even think about it!  You should operate under the guidance of your pastor.  Know what he wants and doesn’t want.  Communicate with him on a regular basis.  Clear all ideas and plans through him. (or whoever the pastor has chosen to be over the women’s ministry)  Women’s Ministry is a ministry that is just as important as a children’s ministry or anything else and if your pastor/staff doesn’t see that, they will never catch the vision and support you.
  2. Know what your purpose is for having a women’s ministry.  We set a Mission Statement which read, “The women’s ministry of …. seeks to encourage women in spiritual growth, discipleship, enrichment, ministry and evangelism.  This goal will be accomplished by providing resources, training, enrichment events and a supporting network.”
  3. PRAY!  Pray about everything!  Every little detail and every big detail.  Ask God for wisdom.  Take everything to Him as you plan.  Be sensitive to His guidance in what the ladies of your church need and what you are actually capable of.
  4. Form a leadership team.  Remember when I said pray?  Well, you need to pray over this one for sure.  Be wise.  You want a leadership team that is made up of women that love God with all their hearts and live a life that is evident of that love.  I didn’t say perfect women.  Women who are wise, godly and forgiven.  Once you build your team, build a relationship with each one of them.  I made it a habit to have lunch with each one by themselves on a regular basis. You might find yourself in a pickle by someone on the team that is contrary to everything possible and it might even be evident that they don’t like you very much.  I pray that never happens to you, but, it it does, hopefully, I can help. Just so happens I have experience in this one.  We will talk about that one tomorrow.
  5. Get to know the women of the church!  Step out of your box and speak to everyone.  Doesn’t matter age, race, economic status or whatever else there is.  Do your best to form a relationship the best that you can with each woman that is in your sphere of influence. Stay clear of cliques.  You really can’t afford to have your own special group of ladies.  You have to be open to everyone.  As crazy as it may seem, it can be a lonely place to be since you aren’t connected to groups.
  6. With your team, put a plan in place for the coming year.  Clear it all through your pastor/staff.  Make sure everyone is on the same page.
  7. Have a kick-off of the ministry.  This could be a full-blown conference, or something simple as a pot luck dinner.  This is where you will introduce the ministry, the team and all that will be available through the new women’s ministry.  A good idea would be to have your pastor at this event to share his approval and his vision as well.
  8. You are now on your way to a successful women’s ministry that could change a woman’s life.  This ministry could be the key that gives a woman hope, encouragement to keep on the path of living a life sold out for Christ. Think of all the lives that are changed just from one woman.  Her husband, her children, her home life, her work environment, her city, her country and her world.  Pretty amazing to think about, isn’t it?
  9. Manage your time.  If you love women’s ministry and enjoy every aspect of it, you will find yourself spending hours everyday working on projects.  I honestly don’t think I could have spent the nine years that I did as women’s ministry director, if I had children at home.  That’s just me, though.  Did I mention I was volunteer?  There are some churches that hire a full time director.  I’m not sure how different that would be….maybe just in a salary of some type. I’m only experienced in serving as a volunteer, paying my own expenses. Lunches, workshops, conferences do add up.  So you might need to figure that out as well. All churches operate differently.
  10. I feel compelled to say this again.  Pray.  Be sensitive and strong at the same time.  You may be confronted with issues that you never even dreamed of and that you would rather not deal with.  As my husband told me as he gave me his blessing to serve in this capacity.  “You are going to have a target on your back, be ready.”  That’s sad, isn’t it.  That was one of the best pieces of advice that I got. The enemy for sure doesn’t want a woman to be at peace and to live a life of godliness, does he?  So, be prepared for attacks in the strangest ways.  Also be prepared in seeing some amazing and exciting things happen in the lives of women in your church.

See you tomorrow for a few more ideas in developing your women’s ministry.  Feel free to share thoughts or questions.

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May you always be seeking to have a heart like His!

And….How’s It Going With Your New Year Plans?

It is January, 26th of the New Year!  How’s it going so far?  Are all your plans, goals and resolutions working out?

For me, it’s going a bit slower than I planned.  I’m a dreamer, so I spend way too much time dreaming and then a bit slow on the action part.

One of my goals for this year is to have my entire house totally dejunked and uncluttered.  No more hanging on to things in case I need them.  The easiest part is cleaning out drawers and cabinets.  The hardest is my closet.  It’s organized and cleaned out, I just have an excess amount of clothes.  Oh, I guess I should mention… in a couple of sizes.  I keep thinking I will fit into some of my favorites.  I’ve given myself  a deadline of fitting into the smaller sizes and if I don’t reach it…out it goes.  Which…is hard, because everything in my closet I LOVE!  I’ll keep you posted on that one.

As I was cleaning out my office, I came across all of my things from when I served as a women’s ministry director of our church for nine years.  I was thumbing through them and what sweet memories came across my desk.  I can remember each one.  I loved serving in this capacity and I miss it terribly.  After nine years it became evident it was time to pass the torch, maybe I should say baton, on to someone else.

Before I get rid of all of these items I thought I would do a few blog posts on the subject of Women’s Ministry.  I’m not an expert by any means, but, I might know a little tiny bit and if I can pass on any info that will help someone….I will do my best.  With all the highs, there were a couple of lows and hopefully, those will only help you to do what maybe I should have done better.

I kept a file with cards and notes that I received from so many sweet ladies over the years.  I will really hate to part with those, but, I guess I shouldn’t hang on to them forever, right?  As I was reading them, there were a couple that weren’t so sweet.  I learned very fast that not everyone was as excited about women’s ministry as I was and they were determined to always cause a problem.  Maybe just maybe if you are dealing with an issue such as that, I can help.  Hindsight is always better, isn’t it!   I didn’t really have anyone to glean wisdom from personally.  I mainly received my encouragement from books and workshops on the subject of women’s ministry.  More on that later.

Stay tuned and I’ll be writing my article on this subject and maybe spend about three days on it next week.  So, if you don’t have any interest at all in ministering to women, hang with me, it won’t last forever, I promise.  But, for those of you that are in women’s ministry or you just attend your local women’s ministry events, maybe there will be a tiny bit of something to encourage you.

Okay, back to my decluttering and I will see you Monday morning with the first article on Women’s Ministry.  You may hear from me before then about a couple of other things swirling in my mind.

Have a great Friday and a restful weekend!



Women’s Ministry Memories!

Our church was looking for a new youth pastor and the pastor asked my husband to fill in until they found someone.  I was 21 and hadn’t been married a year yet.  We took a group of teens to a winter camp in Colorado.  I was in a cabin with several girls and one night a young girl about 15 woke me up to talk. She shared with me that she thought she was pregnant.  This was a beautiful young lady who was visiting our church at the time.  I remember mostly just listening to her and in my head I was begging the Lord for the right words to say and the right way to help.  I didn’t have a clue of how to handle a situation like this.  Along with my husband’s guidance, I did my best in being someone that she needed in the area of talking to her parents and guiding her in some steps to take.

Shortly after, our church had a Family Life Seminar with Tim and Beverly LaHaye.  I was honored to help one of our pastor’s with the planning of the seminar.  When the seminar took place, I was awestruck by the ministry of Beverly LaHaye.  She had a passion to see women live their lives in a way that brought honor and glory to the Lord through their marriages, raising children and serving in the church.

When my husband went to seminary, we served in a church where my husband worked full-time as  youth/ associate pastor.  This is where my passion for equipping young girls and women to be all that God desires for them really began.  Here are a couple of pictures I found of the Christian Womanhood Class that we started.  I would love to know where these girls are now!  Notice the monogramed jumpers?  They sang as a group, too!  So cute!  The second picture shows the girls and I during our first event, “Hat’s Off To Mom!”   (early 80’s)


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The following pictures are just a sample of some of the amazing women that I have met over the years while serving in women’s ministry and going to various women’s events .

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There are many more that I didn’t get or have a picture of.  Can you recognize any of them?

I will always remember that first young girl that came to me in the middle of the night with a desperate need of help and I wasn’t at all equipped to help her.  I vowed way back at that first meeting of that little Christian Womanhood Class, to be equipped myself and to teach other’s to live their lives as God designed.



What an honor it was to speak to the ladies of Northside Baptist Church in Weatherford, Texas this past weekend!  What an amazing group of ladies!  I was blessed by their sweet spirits and kindness.

A Royal-Tea!

Our women’s ministry hosted a Royal-Tea.  The guest speaker was Tatum Hubbard who is a former Miss Texas and a local newscaster for CBS.  Her title was “If The Crown Fits.”  What a blessing it was to hear her story in winning her crown and using it to the honor and glory of our Savior.  It was a special evening with skits, music, beautifully decorated tables and tribute to a special lady that passed away a year ago of pancreatic cancer as well as Tatum’s message.

I decided to decorate my table with some things that I love and that is Cameo’s.  I’ve had this love for cameos for many years now and I actually found some tea cups a few years ago with cameo’s on them.  I couldn’t wait to try them out.

Fascinator for the mannequin.
Beautiful Red Roses in my polka dot teapot.
Tatum sharing her Miss Texas Crown!

I’m linking to a Tablescape Party at Between Naps On The Porch.

Heart Talk Newsletter

As most of you know, I am the Women’s Ministry Director at my church.  Each month we put together a newsletter for our ladies.  We recently sent out the January/February issue of our newsletter, Heart Talk.  I would love for you to check it out and see all that we have going.  I love the work that goes on in this ministry and the ladies are so much fun to serve with! The newsletters are always posted on the blog I have for our women’s ministry at  www.aheartforwomensministry.blogspot.com 

You can view the latest newsletter here:

Heart Talk