How many times did you tell your children to not worry about anything and just enjoy life? If you are like me, you said that many times over the years. What about you? Do you enjoy life? Are you enjoying your life as it is today?
It is important that whatever season of life you are in, that you enjoy and make it the best…right now….today!
Sometimes, we can get in the habit of always looking forward to something that we miss out on the NOW. An example for me would be that I am anxiously awaiting the return of Christ, but, I also am trying to live life as full and purposeful each day while I look forward to His appearing!
I had someone tell me once during their child raising years that they couldn’t wait to see their children grow up and leave the home. My heart hurt as I listened. I can’t imagine dreaming of the day my children would leave home. I’ve seen many rush their children to grow up faster than they should. Today, we see many children miss out on the years of just being a child. The innocence of a child is so sweet; so many lose that innocence so very young. We miss such special times because we want them to be older or bigger or whatever. Enjoy now….enjoy the place your children are right now at this very moment.
Recently, I caught myself being idle because I wasn’t able to do anything due to thinking of a trip coming up. I missed a couple of days of accomplishing some goals simply because I could only think of that trip and preparing for only that. Time was wasted and things were let go, simply because I didn’t put things in order. I was looking only at that trip and not what was around me that needed attention.
What about entertaining in your home? You may think that you will wait until you have a bigger home or it’s spotless and in the mean time, you miss out on special time with friends or family.
What are you putting off because you are wishing for something different? Do you feel like you are missing out on the hear and now by always thinking of all the what if’s and maybe’s?
What season are you in now….today? Are you in the middle of raising a family? You get one shot at it……..so go for it and make it the best possible regardless of the situation. We have so much to be thankful for, don’t wish it all away to be something different. How you live your life isn’t dependent on other’s. It is dependent on how you choose to live your life.
Whether you are single or married with or without children; embrace your life and don’t wish it away hoping for something different, bigger, better, older, younger, skinnier, larger, or whatever goes through your mind that holds you captive in enjoying today.
The “empty nest” years can be wonderful and precious years if we accept it and are determined to make it that way. I want to be just as fulfilled in these years as I was while raising our children. I know you do, too.
I’m a believer in journaling. Today, as soon as you are finished reading this, make a list of the things in your life that you are grateful for. Then write out where you are in life and how you can make each day count. What are the things that keep you busy and fulfilled? How can you make a difference in someone else’s life? Are there some things you are putting off by wishing for something different that what it is? If so, name it, get rid of that thinking and move on!
Know your purpose in life and run with it! When a young woman wonders what life will be like when her children are grown and she is living the “empty nest” years, maybe she will think of you and have you as a goal to strive for. You are mentoring younger women without saying a word. Your life speaks volumes!
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Yes, embrace the season you are in, and embrace what you have!!! I don’t have a lot of regrets about how I used my time when my kids were little. There were a few years when I was so obsessed with doing church ministry that I was always putting my kids with a babysitter, so I could “do God’s work.” Thankfully, God got my attention (through a health crisis), and he brought my heart home. I realized that taking care of my family was God’s work for me.
Now that my kids are grown and gone, I have time for church ministry, and one thing I constantly try to tell the young moms who are clamoring to get out of the house or to do “something big for God” that these years with their little ones are fleeting, to enjoy them, to look upon them as God’s work for them in this season. In time.
Blessings to you,
Patti, I love what you shared! So important to make our children a priority over things outside the home while we are raising them. Raising our children is God’s work! I love that. Go girl!
Beverly, this was so good! Even though I am in that “empty nest” stage, I am lucky to have my girls nearby. They were both here this weekend; and I honestly just sat and thought of how blessed we are to still be able to enjoy one another, while creating new memories. Even though our oldest has her own place across town, she still spends the night here occasionally. It warms my heart that this is still home for her!
Shenita, what a blessing to have your daughters close and still creating memories.