My 10 Tips On Beginning a Women’s Ministry In Your Church…

Are you ready to talk about women’s ministry?

Whether you are a leader, a participant or just curious about how to begin a women’s ministry, maybe the next couple of articles on my blog will be of some help.

You may have a question such as, “Beverly, what could you possibly know about women’s ministry that I don’t already know?”

GOOD QUESTION!

I don’t claim to know much of anything at all.  I just go by my experience and what I’ve been through in my 58 years of life! ha!  Some good and some not so good.  I love this scripture in God’s Word:

“As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” Proverbs 27:17

We can all learn so much from each other if we share with one another what we know and have learned.   We may even help one another from going through some of those not so good things that could happen and become wiser and stronger.

Nope….I didn’t go to college and major in Women’s Ministry.  Although I wish I would have when my husband was in Seminary.  I worked while he attended school.  Bummer!

As a new Christian in the church at the age of 14, I was drawn to the pastor’s wives and missionary wives.  I wanted to learn so much from them as well as the older women in the church. I wanted to know everything possible to become a mighty woman of God.  The church I grew up in from the age of 14 on, didn’t have a women’s ministry.  I do remember a time when some special classes were taught by women of the church to teens and women on how to be a Godly woman.  I soaked it up.  Every now and then on Wednesdays nights, the women would gather and have a time of prayer.  The staff wives would lead and I loved hearing the women pray about the things of the church.

When I married at the age of 20, we prepared to sell everything we had (which wasn’t much) and move to the Dallas area and attend a Bible Seminary.  What an exciting and scary time.  I could tell your stories about that season, but, that will have to be another day.  It was a sweet time as well as an interesting time.

Our first church that we served in while in Bible college, gave us so many sweet memories while my husband served as the youth pastor/associate pastor.  In our our youth group we formed a group called “Christian Womanhood.” (My husband led a group called, “Christian Manhood”.) What a sweet group of girls we had.  We studied what it was to be a young woman of God.  We actually began a girls choir. What’s funny about that one, is, I can’t sing.  We also had a Mother’s Day Conference.  I knew nothing, but it was a success.  I was 21, newly married and scared out of my mind.

Our second church we served in; my husband was the pastor.  It was a tiny church.  I started off with just having ladies in my home for get togethers and we attended a ladies conference nearby.  This was a very small church and money was extremely tight.  I had a newborn and a 3 year old.  I only did what I could to get the women together when I could.

The next stop on our journey was a larger church and it didn’t have a women’s ministry.  I was hungry to learn from other women in the area of living my life as a pastor’s wife.  I read whatever I could get my hands on.  I stayed busy helping my husband however I could in his ministry while homeschooling and raising our children.

We then were called to another church where my husband served as youth pastor.  Again, no women’s ministry.  I talked to the pastor’s wife and she wasn’t interested at all as she was busy and worked full time.  So, we started small with a ladies conference to kick it off.  From there, several women got interested and a few little ministries developed.  This was the time that I learned some serious lessons in how dangerous women’s ministry can be if the wrong people are in charge.  Woowee…..I won’t go into details, but let’s just say,  if someone wants to start a “Secret Sisters” group, you might be in a pickle if the ladies that are in charge take it upon themselves to get on to  participants if they didn’t give a gift or card for the month. Not just get on to, but a good chewing out might be the right word.  I’ll just leave that one right there.  We eventually got a new pastor at this particular church and his wife loved women’s ministry and eventually  took the reins  and did a great job with it.

I learned many lessons at that time, good and bad.  Not just in women’s ministry, but in every area of service.  I can share some of those lessons at another time.

Years later we were involved in a church as laypeople.  (That means, not in full-time ministry.)

I was asked if I would be interested in starting a ladies Bible class.  The thought scared me terribly and after praying about it, I had peace that was what I was to do.  As I was preparing, I thought how awesome it would be to possibly begin a women’s ministry at the same time.  When I visited with the pastor about it, he was on board with the idea.  So off we went.  What a fun time of learning, sharing and  many lessons, once again.  I wouldn’t trade the nine years of this season for anything.

So from there, I will share what I know and how we did our women’s ministry and maybe there is something that will help or prevent some issues in your ministry.

The sweet girls from our very first ministry. I’m the scared looking girl in the middle of the back row!

Enough of where you’ve been, Beverly, where’s those 10 tips?

Here they are…

  1.  If you don’t have the full support and backing of your pastor and staff, don’t even think about it!  You should operate under the guidance of your pastor.  Know what he wants and doesn’t want.  Communicate with him on a regular basis.  Clear all ideas and plans through him. (or whoever the pastor has chosen to be over the women’s ministry)  Women’s Ministry is a ministry that is just as important as a children’s ministry or anything else and if your pastor/staff doesn’t see that, they will never catch the vision and support you.
  2. Know what your purpose is for having a women’s ministry.  We set a Mission Statement which read, “The women’s ministry of …. seeks to encourage women in spiritual growth, discipleship, enrichment, ministry and evangelism.  This goal will be accomplished by providing resources, training, enrichment events and a supporting network.”
  3. PRAY!  Pray about everything!  Every little detail and every big detail.  Ask God for wisdom.  Take everything to Him as you plan.  Be sensitive to His guidance in what the ladies of your church need and what you are actually capable of.
  4. Form a leadership team.  Remember when I said pray?  Well, you need to pray over this one for sure.  Be wise.  You want a leadership team that is made up of women that love God with all their hearts and live a life that is evident of that love.  I didn’t say perfect women.  Women who are wise, godly and forgiven.  Once you build your team, build a relationship with each one of them.  I made it a habit to have lunch with each one by themselves on a regular basis. You might find yourself in a pickle by someone on the team that is contrary to everything possible and it might even be evident that they don’t like you very much.  I pray that never happens to you, but, it it does, hopefully, I can help. Just so happens I have experience in this one.  We will talk about that one tomorrow.
  5. Get to know the women of the church!  Step out of your box and speak to everyone.  Doesn’t matter age, race, economic status or whatever else there is.  Do your best to form a relationship the best that you can with each woman that is in your sphere of influence. Stay clear of cliques.  You really can’t afford to have your own special group of ladies.  You have to be open to everyone.  As crazy as it may seem, it can be a lonely place to be since you aren’t connected to groups.
  6. With your team, put a plan in place for the coming year.  Clear it all through your pastor/staff.  Make sure everyone is on the same page.
  7. Have a kick-off of the ministry.  This could be a full-blown conference, or something simple as a pot luck dinner.  This is where you will introduce the ministry, the team and all that will be available through the new women’s ministry.  A good idea would be to have your pastor at this event to share his approval and his vision as well.
  8. You are now on your way to a successful women’s ministry that could change a woman’s life.  This ministry could be the key that gives a woman hope, encouragement to keep on the path of living a life sold out for Christ. Think of all the lives that are changed just from one woman.  Her husband, her children, her home life, her work environment, her city, her country and her world.  Pretty amazing to think about, isn’t it?
  9. Manage your time.  If you love women’s ministry and enjoy every aspect of it, you will find yourself spending hours everyday working on projects.  I honestly don’t think I could have spent the nine years that I did as women’s ministry director, if I had children at home.  That’s just me, though.  Did I mention I was volunteer?  There are some churches that hire a full time director.  I’m not sure how different that would be….maybe just in a salary of some type. I’m only experienced in serving as a volunteer, paying my own expenses. Lunches, workshops, conferences do add up.  So you might need to figure that out as well. All churches operate differently.
  10. I feel compelled to say this again.  Pray.  Be sensitive and strong at the same time.  You may be confronted with issues that you never even dreamed of and that you would rather not deal with.  As my husband told me as he gave me his blessing to serve in this capacity.  “You are going to have a target on your back, be ready.”  That’s sad, isn’t it.  That was one of the best pieces of advice that I got. The enemy for sure doesn’t want a woman to be at peace and to live a life of godliness, does he?  So, be prepared for attacks in the strangest ways.  Also be prepared in seeing some amazing and exciting things happen in the lives of women in your church.

See you tomorrow for a few more ideas in developing your women’s ministry.  Feel free to share thoughts or questions.

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26 Comments

  1. Thank you starting a women’s ministry and can learn a lot from your experience
    May the Lord bless you
    Pastor Michelle Butler One Cross Ministries

  2. This was so helpful! I am subscribing to your blog right now as I don’t want to miss out on any of your wisdom!

  3. Hi Beverly!
    I thank God for allowing me to run across 10 tips on beginning women ministry. It has been very helpful. I’ve been asked to lead the women ministry in my church. Leading a group is new but not women but, I’m seeking the Lord for guidance.

    1. I’m so happy that my post encouraged you and how exciting to begin leading the women’s ministry in your church. I would love to hear how it is going for you and your ladies. I just prayed for you!

  4. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom, advice and encouragement with us. Looking forward to reading your blog!

    1. Hi Wendy, I’m so happy to read your comment! Being encouraged to press on is a joy to hear. Blessings on your ministry; I have a feeling the Lord is using you in great and mighty ways.

  5. My Church does not have a Widows Ministry. I was talking to my Pastor about it and he was excited to hear that I would be interested in organizing one. He told me he and the church would support it If I wanted to get it together. I have asked two ladies in the church to help me with it. We are putting our heads together to figure out how to get started.

    I prayed many a prayer about it before, I talked to my Pastor about it, and continue with my two friends who have agreed to assist me with it.

    We hope to be ready to start in September but realize we have a lot to do to “Begin in 4 months, as we have not yet come up with the right name for the group. We want to include all ages, but so many young women still work so we are trying to figure out when and how to meet to include all ages.

    Any suggestions and advice you may offer will be greatly appreciated. This is a new adventure for me and I want it to be a wonderful ministry for all the ladies who have lost a spouse. I lost mine last February 2023.

    Thank you

    1. Hi Betty! I am so excited to hear about your new ministry you are about to kick off. How wonderful that you have the support of your pastor and staff. Your two friends who are going to serve with you sounds perfect. All of that and your desire to minister to women that have lost a spouse and with you being a new widow yourself is the perfect beginning for a widows ministry.September is a great time to launch your ministry for sure. That will give you all summer to dream, set goals, plan, set dates and then start off with a bang in September. I would be tempted to have a kick off event to launch the ministry. So many things you can do at this kick off event depending on your style and your church etc. You could possibly have a guest speaker that would have a message designed for widows or you could do that yourself. You would introduce your team at this time and have your plans for the quarter or however you choose to set up your calendar of events. Maybe have various ministries that cater to your group. A monthly get together for dinner or lunch is always fun. Possibly your deacons have a ministry that takes care of needs of the widows in your church. If you have a mentoring program, this would be a great time to introduce that as well as they may want to be part of it. So many things, my head is spinning with ideas. I don’t want to overwhelm you. ha! But, you are on the right track and the desire you have to serve women and share the gospel to women that are in a season of life that not everyone understands fully until they have been there is the best beginning. I can’t wait to hear what all you come up with. I believe great things will happen because of your desire and obedience to reach out to the widows in your church and community. What a great outreach this could be as well. Feel free to email me and let me know what your plans are, as I’m anxious to hear what you come up with. I am praying for great and mighty things to come through your widows ministry!

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